tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6996166442646611418.post6115166029279229071..comments2023-06-28T01:09:15.953-07:00Comments on Deanna Ramsay: I'm So Confused...deanna ramsayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01464109784952913152noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6996166442646611418.post-81907654786558357012014-04-05T14:49:12.359-07:002014-04-05T14:49:12.359-07:00My brother has had 49 brain surgeries, but not for...My brother has had 49 brain surgeries, but not for a brain tumor. What we learned is that the very best thing to do is make sure you have the best doctors and the best opinions. Sounds really simple, but it isn't. Through 40 years of brain surgeries we have found 2 teams of doctors who are better than the best the #1 team is the Dept. of Neurosurgery at UCLA led by Dr. Bergschneider (they are actually rated by almost any medical review board as #1) and the #2 would have to be Dr. Walter Johnson at Loma Linda whose specialty is Radiating Brain Tumors. I'd call and schedule a phone consult with one or both. You will rest easier that way and know that whatever wisdom you gain, its the wisdom God wants you to have to be better prepared to make the right decision. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6996166442646611418.post-84935819753861140362014-04-05T11:47:36.913-07:002014-04-05T11:47:36.913-07:00A book I would like to recommend: When God and Can...A book I would like to recommend: When God and Cancer Meet Author: Lynn Eib (a cancer survivor herself and now councils others)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6996166442646611418.post-54295213496878721872014-04-05T07:29:36.389-07:002014-04-05T07:29:36.389-07:00By the way, my name is actually Melanie Marshall. ...By the way, my name is actually Melanie Marshall. The blog insisted on using my HS Reunion Gmail account which has a generic name.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10169929968668387656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6996166442646611418.post-45211971353752668512014-04-05T07:27:36.898-07:002014-04-05T07:27:36.898-07:00Having gone through cancer myself (a different typ...Having gone through cancer myself (a different type) 10 years ago, I remember all of the conflicting advice and information overload. I know your dad through Skyline and I have been praying for y'all since I first heard of your hubby's tumor, and I'll continue to pray, and will ask God to make it very clear. Prayer is really the best thing we can all be doing for you. Lastly, one thing I took away from my cancer experience is that everyone's cancer situation can be different, and what worked for one may not work for all. I tried to make informed decisions about my treatment choices (I was going through a divorce at the same time so I didn't have a partner to consult either), and then ultimately, I trusted my doctor and God to know what the best course of treatment was for me. Peace to you, friend.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10169929968668387656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6996166442646611418.post-81978295027293049052014-04-04T16:59:48.523-07:002014-04-04T16:59:48.523-07:00Talk to the Holy Spirit. Tell Him how confusing t...Talk to the Holy Spirit. Tell Him how confusing this is. He knows best - ask Him to guide and counsel you. Then listen - enter God's rest. Nothing is impossible for God. <br />Marilyn Allmonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6996166442646611418.post-67420035241130650522014-04-04T10:21:05.469-07:002014-04-04T10:21:05.469-07:00My best advice is to seek a second opinion from th...My best advice is to seek a second opinion from the best medical facility you can find. For us, with Cassidy's heart, that would be CHOP or Boston. Our friend who needed a heart transplant moved from Denver to Los Angeles in order to get a heart after waiting years in Denver. Have records sent to the best of the best. Get a second or third opinion, and see what treatment they recommend. Then pray for peace about the decision. We will pray with you. Let someone who can review Jon's specific records help you make that decision.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18023662613646528161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6996166442646611418.post-42167398571249589942014-04-04T10:12:16.449-07:002014-04-04T10:12:16.449-07:00on it.on it.Bethany Crandellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08465408035247412662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6996166442646611418.post-52761946902997194542014-04-04T09:03:12.746-07:002014-04-04T09:03:12.746-07:00Praying constantly for all of you to REST in His g...Praying constantly for all of you to REST in His goodness with thanksgiving. That your roots would grow deeper as you TRUST in His love for you, Jon and your babies. That His PEACE surround you and comfort your hearts and minds. That you would know you are COVERED in prayer by so many to make the right decision!! <3Sherriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16771016424985981715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6996166442646611418.post-64279018173851682352014-04-04T08:26:42.887-07:002014-04-04T08:26:42.887-07:00It isn't often that I can say this but "I...It isn't often that I can say this but "I've been there." Eight years ago my husband and I walked through the shock, denial and sadness of his brain tumor. I'll admit I spent most of the time pretending that everything was going to be ok. I sat stunned, as the first neurosurgeon told us to "start making funeral plans because he had 3 months to live" the next said he needed emergency surgery but that the odds it being successful (ie. having surviving and not being paralyzed or worse) were something like less than 25% and then the third confirmed he needed surgery immediately. My husband's tumor is right smack dab in the middle of his brain, nearly touching his ocular nerves. No quick and easy fix and most of the options that I had gotten so excited about, like gamma knife weren't a good fit for him. Then there was my sheer terror when I realized that surgeons often suggest the procedure in which they are experts, even if that may not be the best fit for the patient. I tried to learn everything I could about brain surgery from the internet, my potential for failure was huge and the stakes could never be higher. I know your desperation well and I promise you the Lord will never leave you, nor forsake you.<br /><br />By the grace of God while viewing his pre-surgery MRI the doctor decided to hold off for a week and watch it a little longer. Week after week of praying, watching and waiting bought us precious time. To this day the doctors don't know what happened. They've stumbled, they've admitted maybe it has been this way since birth, maybe it stopped growing...they can't explain it. The only thing they can seem to agree on is that maybe they were wrong. Eight years latter and without surgery my husband is doing great, healthy and strong. <br /><br />Sometimes God brings healing through prayer, sometimes with modern medicine and sometimes in spite of our desperate prayers, he has other plans to call us home. But I just want you to know, that you are not alone. God is with you. I am praying for you, your husband and those you love.<br /><br /><br />"Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us." Romans 5:3-5<br /><br />Praying for you,<br />Victoria ConklinAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6996166442646611418.post-70915306608146615912014-04-04T07:34:14.262-07:002014-04-04T07:34:14.262-07:00The only non-medicinal or non-surgical procedures ...The only non-medicinal or non-surgical procedures I advise for you is a nice long back massage at a kick butt day spa. Deanna, you are doing amazing!DrummondBloggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14174090952820450222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6996166442646611418.post-11188572329544347072014-04-04T05:46:27.455-07:002014-04-04T05:46:27.455-07:00Deanna, I am my husband's caregiver. I know t...Deanna, I am my husband's caregiver. I know the challenges. I have added "peace" to your prayer request. I am praying for wisdom, discernment and peace for you. Nahum 1:7 Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6996166442646611418.post-42644351569231761712014-04-04T04:52:10.892-07:002014-04-04T04:52:10.892-07:00I so agree with Kathy Schager. Please know that t...I so agree with Kathy Schager. Please know that the Lord brings you and Jon to mind several times during the day which is my reminder to lift you and your family in prayer. After going through breast cancer three years ago I can sympathize with the decision making process but as Kathy said, the battle is the Lord's. I found peace in remembering that my life was in His hands...not the surgeon, oncologist or radiologist. My heart aches for you both and all that you are dealing with. Satan is the author of confusion but God knows the plans He has for you. Praying for peace as you research and strength in God's decision. Sending prayers and love to you both.donna porterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11529138033073413976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6996166442646611418.post-66244545579788454132014-04-03T23:32:10.538-07:002014-04-03T23:32:10.538-07:00Deanna, you are a rock and so is your sweet Jon. ...Deanna, you are a rock and so is your sweet Jon. Our God is bigger than all of this, and no matter what therapy you choose, God is in control. Our struggle is truly not against what is seen, but rather in what is unseen. And God has the infinite power and authority to take whatever therapy you select and make perfection out of it for you two. You're doing a great thing in researching all that you can. At the same time, keep it in God's perspective and try not to get analysis paralysis. This is not your burden to bear - this belongs to our Lord. He has Jon in his grip and that's what's important. No matter what road lies ahead, God has blessing interwoven all throughout it. Don't forget to ask for and even CLAIM those blessings - He is a God of healing, abundance and almighty power. This is in His care. Love to you and Jon - if there is anything tangible I can do besides pray (which I am doing), please let me know. It would be a pleasure to help. Kathy Schager, Realtorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05798652161708069095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6996166442646611418.post-41279782166389018372014-04-03T23:17:51.966-07:002014-04-03T23:17:51.966-07:00Deanna and Jon, I am praying everyday for your doc...Deanna and Jon, I am praying everyday for your doctors and you to make the right decision for Jon's surgery! It isn't easy I know. Radiation now can be pinpointed to get to just the right spot without too much damage. I don'tknow about the gamma or cyber knife surgery. I am praying that you will both have the stamina to hold up through all of this..God Bless you..and your family..Lillian Lillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06306747256062427611noreply@blogger.com